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| Meditation & Compassion for Psychic Development |
| Your Stories - Your Articles | |
| Written by Joy Star | |
| Monday, 21 July 2008 | |
Inspired by the Teachings of the Dalai Lama
he Dalai Lama says that when he gives talks, he begins by saying, “Let us meditate together now.” He says that he laughs a bit at how everyone sits up straight in their chair like a soldier, because it is not the body that needs to focus, it is the mind. Likewise, reading a spiritual teaching, a book, can be a meditation—meditation is focusing the mind and that is something we often don’t understand. This writing is in fact, in those terms, a meditation. Continued There are several other ways to focus the mind—to achieve mental discipline which serves one many times over throughout the day whilst working in one’s career or profession and so on. And in this effort it is important to achieve a determined stance using courage and determination, i.e. “I will remain focused!” This type of determination is necessary because the mind will want to rush outside itself finding distraction i.e. the traffic going by or any external noises. The mind wishes to examine everyone and everything else, but not itself!This we have not been taught in western society. We are not customarily taught about the nature of the mind in this way. By the way, in order to keep the mind present, it is good to keep the eyes slightly open but not caring much if they are opened or closed, but the intention is to keep the eyes open in this way. And then to not look with the physical eye but to look to the mind—the physical eyes are slightly open but not looking. The attention is rather inside the self. The Dalai Lama suggests that in the beginning moments, however, and if it is helpful, to gaze at perhaps at a flower or a statue. But then bring the image inside of the mind and to hold it there. So we can focus upon that one point, examining it from different perspectives (much like the examining of a multi-faceted diamond from various angles). This develops mental concentration, which again will help you in other activities of the day whether it be commerce/business affairs or any work of any kind. In particular, if you are working with psychic development it will be extremely important to do this. It sounds easy, but to discipline the mind in this way when it is not used to it can be challenging. However, just keep bringing the mind back to the single focus point with determination. So now, to summarize thus far, there is an analytical meditation which can focus the mind on a teaching, the most beneficial being a spiritual teaching via listening to a spiritual lecture or reading spiritual text. Not letting the mind wander is the practice there. And another way to develop mental discipline is to focus upon a single image. It is important, I believe, to stop the meditation when frustration cannot be eliminated—for this frustration or anxiety can prove detrimental to future sittings/meditations. It is better to stop when this happens and return to it later in the day. I have always believed that in beginning stages it is better to have frequent meditations that are pointed than one long frustrated sitting. Now we come to compassion—and this is my favorite meditation type. On this topic generally, the Dalai Lama stresses the importance of self-compassion. He says if we don’t have compassion for the self, how can we have it for others? So this is similar to the thing we hear so much about having self-love and that if we don’t love the self, how can we love others? How much difference is there between compassion and love? Myself, I think they are very similar. Now we live in a world here where there is suffering—of this there should be not much doubt. I agree with the Dalai Lama that much of the reason for this is because of individual inner conflict leading to, familial conflict, community conflict, and national conflict resulting in world conflict. This opens the door to a whole other topic, but as we become more and more a world community, and the more individuals can see themselves ‘in’ and ‘as’ one another (this is where the compassion comes into play); more dialogue and compromise will be possible. At least one hopes this will be the case. But again, this all begins on an individual level and as each of us brings our meditation out into the world. Just as in the example of the monks, we have opportunities to bring a peaceful and centered energy vibration into the world to affect the whole. So, to return to the compassion meditation technique, we can use our own experiences or the events we see unfolding most everywhere around us as a focal point. Yet, even before I delve into that, forgiveness is also an important part of the Dalai Lama’s message. He speaks of unbiased love and compassion for others and how important it is to develop this. Many times love, forgiveness and compassion come spontaneously with regard to friends or loved ones (he says that this is more from attachment); however, developing these virtues in unbiased way and to have love, forgiveness and compassion (or at least tolerance) for those who we do not know (strangers) and most importantly to those we would call our enemies is the greatest achievement. Those who have openly harmed us, betrayed us or caused us difficulties—to feel compassion toward them is the ultimate realization. Observing the Dalai Lama’s response to the Chinese who have wrought pain, suffering and death to Tibetans—here is the ultimate example. His view is that even the most horrific outer world disturbances can bring ultimate opportunity. Ultimately, the tragedy in Tibet has opened a world audience to his message of peace and compassion. His outlook toward the Chinese is one of compassion, understanding that they, too, are human brothers and sisters. So, we have the same opportunities in our own lives to develop tolerance and understanding toward our enemies—to stand back and see a wider perspective and to develop compassion and forgiveness. This does not mean to be a victim or not to try to resolve matters, but rather to do so from a stance of non-emotional anger or resentment. And, most importantly, meditation helps one to achieve the necessary mental discipline to do this. So, strong or harsh experiences give us the ability to use that energy in a most positive way. Bringing this down to a more individualistic level now and returning to self-love and self-compassion as a way to achieve a single minded mental focus in meditation, we can use our own experiences as a beginning point. Dalai Lama teaches that holding the mind on a focal point of compassion with determination i.e. “I will hold this focus” is a meditation practice which is highly beneficial. Once this can be done successfully, after leaving the mental focus/meditation, one finds that small (or even larger) problems of the day not longer disturb one’s inner peace. He likens this to the example of awakening in the morning. I think this is a very beneficial example. So, he says if we awaken in the morning in a peaceful and happy state of mind, it very often sets the tone for the day. Consequently, should a small or even large problem of life appear, it likely will not disturb the inner peace. Problems or difficulties are, in this case, like small waves in a clear and peaceful body of water. Yet, if we awaken in a disturbed state of mind for any reason—think of times when you have awakened from a fitful night or perhaps had a nightmare of some kind—this sets the mental tone for the rest of the day and then a small outer world disturbance or problem appears and we explode. Meditation can be thought of in much the same way—intentionally creating a state of waking up in a happy and peaceful mood which carries us forth into the day. Because outer the world is usually more quiet in the very early morning hours and because generally the mind is fresh (less tired than when attempting meditation in the evening), it is more conducive to meditate in the early morning. Additionally, it sets the tone for the rest of the day. So, now I will share with you my version of a compassion meditation which serves a twofold purpose. It begins with self-compassion and with self-love and then expands into compassion for all sentient beings. (Sentient beings are all beings that are capable of experiencing suffering, so this would of course include animals, etc.) Here is where we can take our suffering and make use of it. What I personally do is to think of a time when I was in suffering—and this is an important point: when I say this, it is not for the purpose of enhancing on my own suffering—not in the least. In fact, to the contrary, I remember times of my own suffering for the purpose of expanding self-compassion and self-love and then to extend that compassion to the world. Then, I believe, in doing this we can make a connection to other sentient beings when we remind the self that others, too, have experienced this same feeling of suffering. This is called Tonglin practice in Buddhist philosophy. And an important by-product of engaging in this practice is to help expand the necessary mental focus that we are developing. We have a twofold opportunity to heal our own past suffering and to connect with others who also are suffering by remembering or contemplating that somewhere in the world others may be having the very same experience, perhaps at that very moment. Now, some will say, why bring these sufferings into the mind and my answer would be this: For the same reason they happened in the first place—to develop compassion. I have observed my own life quite a lot and notice that at any time I become too disconnected from myself or others, sure enough something happens in my life—some suffering—which helps me to return to a compassionate state once again. It is so important to know how others feel in order to remain connected. So it never fails that should I become mentally critical of another or should I have thoughts about others which are not compassionate, life brings me an experience which has me saying something like, “Oh, this is how that other person must feel—I must remember this feeling and not loose my sense of compassion.” It seems like when I grow distant or become impatient with my fellow humans; life helps me reconnect in that way. So then when I engage in a compassion meditation, I remember a time when I experienced suffering in some way, and then intentionally I bring up the feeling of it to bring thoughts of self-healing, self-love and self-compassion. Now using this Tonglin practice , again I focus on the idea that if somewhere in the world there is one or there are many having this experience right now in their life, I understand and have compassion. I send the feelings of compassion to them through breathing out that healing love and compassion. While bringing the healing thoughts to them and while breathing them out, it is most important we hold that focus—that mental discipline. If the mind should waver or weaken in the feelings of compassion toward the other (s), I remind myself of my own past suffering experience in order to bring up the focus again. And again I breathe out feelings of compassion toward the others. The spirit of Tonglin is to realize that we are not separate and our suffering is not separate. So there are times when I’ve felt panicked or worried or felt helpless or hopeless or stuck. I bring those moments to mind, and then through concentration, breathe in love and compassion and send that out, whilst remembering that others, too, feel this. Essentially, I intend to relieve this within myself and also within others, thereby healing myself and others. This is how we can use our suffering. Dalai Lama says also we can think of a group of people who are suffering greatly in the world right now—perhaps those who are in countries with war or famine and holding the disciplined mental focus upon those beings send compassionate love to them. Sometimes, in my compassion meditation practice, I will intend to remember the sad feeling of my father crossing over and say to myself, someone or others may be feeling this same way right now (somewhere someone is grieving over the loss of a loved one), and then I send compassionate loving thoughts to them, with the intention of helping to relieve their suffering. Again, the overall idea is to develop mental discipline and hold the concentrated focus with these methods as well as to practice the development of self-love, self-compassion and thereby compassion for others. Here is an article, if you are interested in the Tonglin practice, and would like to understand it further: http://www.innerself.com/Meditation/weiss_andrew_60604.htm So in summary so far then, I’ve given several meditation techniques to help discipline the mind which are very important to consider applying in order to achieve a disciplined and focused mind for the purpose of actualizing inner peace. By the way, it also should be said that one could also bring to mind a memory of being in a state of happiness or peace and sending this out into the world with each breath as well. Another technique is choosing one word with disciplined mental focus upon that word while allowing that word’s full meaning to expand. This is also helpful. For example, using one word such as harmony, love, peace, laughter, and so on and allowing those feelings to expand and then sending that out to the world. In teaching classes in psychic development, some students have expressed some level of difficulty in the area of mental discipline as it applies to meditation. Keeping the eyes open helps mental focus and keeps one from going into the sphere of imagination and remaining there. In the practice of psychic development, it is important to be able to hold a focused mind in order to receive insight and information from the Higher Mind (call this God, Angels, Spirit Guides or whichever term you use, it doesn’t matter). Once I began to do readings for others, it became apparent that it was necessary to do something that I term, “holding a space”. Once a question is asked, one has to quiet the mind, holding a space, into which the insight or answer can come into. For me, this means quieting everything—halting and holding mentally—so that a space is created for the information to enter. Developing mental discipline and focus through the suggestions given, I believe, can aid in this process. Wishing you Infinite Blessings, Offered in Love & in Service, Psychic Medium Joy Star |
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I’ve heard the Dalai Lama say that monks often go into the streets to be with people after a prolonged meditation. This outing enables the monk or lama to sort of test out and see how effective their meditation practice has been. The Buddhist believes that meditation enhances one’s ability to be more compassionate, more tolerant, more patient and most of all, less distracted by the external world. Here, I believe, less distracted really means being able to maintain inner calmness and peace in the face of problems or otherwise disturbing situations.